Coaching and Mentoring - From Ordinary to Extraordinary

Sleep Deprived- Getting the Rest you need is a Solution to Many Everyday Problems!

 

I know you are the type of person that is constantly busy from morning until night.

You even think that sleeping is a waste of time or that you just cannot slow yourself down to rest.

Do you think that four or six hours of sleep is enough time to get adequate mental and physical recharging?

Do you think that just because you have gotten used to four to six hours sleep that this is really all you need?

 

Let me reassure you that you can do quality things with at least eight hours sleep. A few hours extra, hours of sleep a night will recharge you very nicely.

 

Here is my coaching challenge for you:

 

Choose a week to get a minimum of fifty-six hours of sleep over the course of seven nights.

Please take this challenge very seriously, you will find, at least for that week you will feel like a new person. You will be happier, much more productive and able to solve many of your everyday problems. Your thinking and decision-making skills are much more enhanced and your energy levels will be higher.

 

Oh, by the way, you will be far less grouchy. 

 

 

 

 

Self- Control Means Being Tough on Yourself but Gentle on Others

 

 

Self- Control means being tough on yourself but gentle on others this is sometimes not easy to do.

 

In all aspects of your life, make it a challenge to learn to be tough on yourself but go gentle on others! By being tough on yourself, I mean you should set extremely high standards and values for yourself. Your time and skills are very valuable. Use careful consideration when acting on things. You are quality workmanship and you should expect nothing less of yourself.  However, as a manager of your self, you should be aware that it is unwise to try to change others. By being slow to judge others who do not reach your high standards is a way to foster self –control and improve your management abilities.

You must understand that every one has their own perception of excellence. Encourage never criticize.

 

1)   Your personal standards can be increased by the way your control clutter in your life.

2)   How you let others into your personal space, is an other challenge. An open door policy really means an open mind.

3)   Always strive for integrity at work. Remember trust is earned.

4)   In your home, teaching your children is paramount teach with love.

5)    Being tough on yourself generates self- worth, self- confidence, self- discipline and self- control.

 

 

 

 

Being a Non-Conformist can be Fun and Energizing Part 2

 

 This is the second part of your non-conformist experiment.

Be a non-conformist during your workday! This can be done easily yet within the standards of your work environment. Even easier if you own your company, but that is for another blog.

 

Wear a humorous yet, tasteful tie with your most solemn business suit or a flamboyant pair of earrings with your most sophisticated outfit. The only limit to your creativity is your personality. 

Be prepared for a few comments, smiles and perhaps some conversations that you have not expected yet needed.

This experiment can be a great icebreaker during a networking session or conference. Have extra business cards available and ready sales dialogue as needed.

Remember do not make excuses for the non-conformity this is to reduce your stress and open up conversation and creativity.

Try this experiment again in a month or so with a different tie and tie tack, or a glamour bling pin instead of earrings.

Relax be creative and act out side the box. 

You will find yourself looking forward to the next out of character experiment. The positive energy and fun will make live enjoyable.

 

 

 

 

Acting Outside the Box- Testing Self-restraint and Self-control in the Comments, you make.

 

Acting outside the box- Testing self-restraint and self-control in the comments, you make is a way to increase your self confidence and listening skills. 

This may be more difficult for some of us. While it is easy to stay within the rules of political correctness and HR appropriateness, this experiment is much more subtle and yet very effective. 

Go an entire day without saying a negative comment about anything or anyone! This means at home as well as at work.

To really make this a test of your resolve, pick a day when you are going to be talking to many people- for example at a party. Yes, you might have to put a hold on the cocktails! 

This experiment will take a great deal of effort on your part and you may even learn to listen better and comment less.

Relax while your are watching the comments you make, think about how grateful you are to be at this event and how the other people are being less controlled in their conversations. You will find it to be easier to be rude and negative then to be complimentary and positive. You will also notice that one negative comment can be made into a joke or humorous statement that can be extremely hurtful to someone.  Not being a part of this activity will add to the enjoyment of your evening.

Having self control and self restraint will increase your confidence levels as well.

 

Reduce Stress- Tying up Loose Ends or Getting all Knotted up with Stress

 

Tying up loose ends or getting all knotted up with Stress is your goal for the New Year!!

 

As we wind down the old year finishing projects, setting up new projects for the coming year, there are a lot of loose ends to tie up.

We rearrange our office area or reorganize our kitchens all to make ready for the new year. We get rid of old unused things and make room for the new. All this preparation should make you feel good, but does it?

 

There is a very good chance you feel guilty for not completing a project the way you wanted because you may have ran out of money or time or both to do the job right. May be did not get the help that you needed so the project an you suffered. Perhaps you may have lost interest in the project somewhere in the process. All these reasons add to your increased stress levels.

 

You now probably feel that stress has you all tied up in knots. You feel physical discomfort in your neck and shoulders. Also you might even feel a few knots developing in your stomach due to anxiety.

Let go of the ropes that bind your feelings and move forward. The past is finished, learn from your experiences, true it will be a challenge. Being calm emotionally will give you the physical and emotional strength to proceed.

 

That time to really loosen those ends and make every attempt to release those knots. Now that is a great New Year's Resolution!!

 

Stress Relief-Thirty Days to Stress Reduction- One Word at a Time

Every day you have to speak in public. You talk on the phone or at the coffee machine at work with co-workers. You talk to people at the food store, bank, post office and where you get your hair cut. These incidences are also public speaking events.

To reduce your stress when you communicate with others you must feel confident. The first line of defense in feeling confident is your vocabulary.

For one month,consult a dictionary and learn one new and different word each day.

By the end, you will know thirty new words to enrich your communications and decrease your public speaking stress levels significantly.

I have found a sure-fire way to meet this goal, learning new words.

I open my dictionary on my desk and just pick the first word at the top of the right hand page. Then I read the definition and write the word definition and the sentence that the dictionary suggests. I then go one step further,I make up a sentence of my own that is more appropriate to my work or lifestyle. In other words, I make the word fit me. This way it is much easier to integrate the word in my every day language and communications. Whether I use it in e-mails, in phone conversations or during a meeting I feel more confident that I can communicate with people and I feel that I have increased my authority pertaining to my business and I have decreased my stress overall stress level a great deal.

I suggest you try this yourself, you will notice an almost instant feeling of confidence and general well being.

At the end of the month you have increased your vocabulary considerably and perhaps even increased your ability to spell.

As a public speaker, I am encouraged to do this practice though my association with Toastmasters International.

To make this exercise even less painful just sign up for the word of the day on an online website. You will get a daily e-mail with that word of the day. The website even has the capacity to pronounce the word for you so you are not stressed by mispronunciation.

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Remember self-help increases self-improvement.

 

Stress Management- Reduce your Stress by Being Generous

 

Reduce your stress by being generous- Do Something for free what you would normally expect to be paid for.

We all are willing to give free advice, but it is our time that is the most valuable asset we have. Can you afford not to give of your time freely occasionally?

 

A businessperson’s time is extremely valuable. When you give your customer that something extra your competition does not, you have “sealed the deal” with that customer!

 

When you give out kindness, expecting nothing in return, you humble yourself and you reduce your level of stress because you have removed expectations. 

 

When you expect to be paid for the physical work you do, the information you provide, the skills you teach and the interactions you make with others, you set limits on yourself. You set a monetary value on YOU!

 

Instead, your personal value should never have limits. You should be always a work in progress. Constantly growing, living and expanding.

 

By doing something of value without the expectation of reimbursement, you raise your confidence levels, your self-esteem and your ability to be trusted. Friends, family and acquaintances will respect and honor your for it.  

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Part 3- Personal Financial Business is a Major Cause of Stress

 

The knowledge of limiting the surprises, late charges and past due bills reduces your overall stress.

 

You may not be always on top of problems in the beginning of your exercise but you will find as you work through this your options and alternatives will open up. This is because your mind is clearer and more focused. You are calmer to make proper decisions as well.

Remember, your fiscal year does not have to start, January first or July first or April fifteenth. It starts NOW.  

Your weekly budgeting and your daily record keeping will start to be less stressful and more fun now, because you a have a vision of how things should be. You can fine tune the budget and the expenses as necessary. Your attitude and positive habits are starting to kick in with options not fears!

Part 2 - Personal Financial Business is a Major Cause of Stress

Make an annual budget for yourself. This includes a balance sheet of your PROJECTED income and expenses for the next 12 months. Part of the control comes when you include everything you can think of, from auto insurance to grocery bills to entertainment expenses.

The stress relief comes from knowing where you have to adjust your habits. You develop creative energy to find options and alternatives to make your PROJECTED balance sheet doable.

 Seeing the bigger picture helps! Try to use creative ideas like graphs or charts or even silly pictures to make this task more fun. Remember this is your future goal. Be as honest as you can. By doing this you avoid the stress of surprises, real or imagined!

Part 1- Personal Financial Business is a Major Cause of Stress

 

Taking care of personal financial business is a major stress causer of everyone.

 

Even those of us who employ a bookkeeper or an accountant to do our finances for us, are stressed because we must assist with the task of getting the data to the bookkeeper and trusting them to do things effectively and correctly.

 

Those of us who must do these things ourselves must open our minds and change our attitude. Getting control back of our finances may not mean control over our income or our bills, but the control comes in when we begin to recognize were we must control ourselves.

When you take the necessary action to change your habits, you become calmer and alternatives, options and  answers happen!