Coaching and Mentoring - From Ordinary to Extraordinary

Reduce Stress and Enhance your Life's Purpose

 

The importance of reducing stress is to enhance your life’s Purpose.

Reducing your stress levels allows you to live a fuller life and celebrate that life completely. Is this one of your purposes?

 

Your love life and your ability to love others unconditionally are enhanced when stress is no longer a felt emotion.

This purposeful living and loving will give you the means to comfortably leave a wonderful legacy. Is this one of your purposes?

 

Let me share an exercise that I have found very helpful in reflecting on how I am living on purpose!!

Write your own obituary while you are alive and well.

Now be honest with yourself as you write it.

Ask yourself, have I been the type of person that will truly be missed one day?

If I come up short and feel I have not- then I know it is time to make some changes in my life.

To reflect how I really want people to feel and remember me once I am gone allows me to build my legacy.

Please take the time to write your thoughts on how you want to be remembered. Relax and sit quietly first. It is time well invested and you will enhance your life’s purpose in the process.

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Stress Reducer- Savoring an Old -Fashioned Pleasure

 

Savoring an Old-Fashioned Pleasure can reduce stress and increase your creativity.

Citrus fruits are a pleasure that is good for your mind as well as your body. 

Squeeze some oranges or grapefruits, now that they are plentiful, using an old-fashioned juicer and drink in one of life’s stress free and simple pleasures of days gone by.

Your body will love you for it and your mind will take in the pleasant memories of the past. Sit and savor the flavors and the sunshine in the juice. This is both emotional and sensual. 

Be sure to save the rinds, they make great aromatherapy applications. Freeze the rinds to preserve the aroma, more on this later.

Simple pleasures always reduces your stress!!

 

 

Coaching Tips- What to Do or Say When Someone you Know Dies- Sharing is Really Caring

What to do or say when someone you know dies sharing is caring. This is a very real problem for most of us. We feel just as lost as the survivor of the dead loved one. We are lost for words. We are also vulnerable to our fears. 

Death ranks high on our list of fears almost as high as public speaking.

As someone, who has worked in hospice and who is a public speaker, I am somewhat of an expert on these fears.

Public speaking gets easier with practice and with the passion, you express for your topic.

 

With dying, we can practice our expressing our emotions and understanding our fears by writing a brief letter.

When someone you know dies, write a brief letter, not an e-mail, but a real letter to one of his or her survivors describing the impact – great or small- the person had on your life.

They will feel good reading your letter and you will feel good writing it.

 

Your fear of death slowly decreases as you practice sharing your feelings with others. By sharing you will learn to celebrate your life!!

 

Coaching Tips- Positive Choices - You can Choose not to be Sad

Positive choices- You can choose not to be sad. It may take a little self understanding and feeling your inner feelings, but it is doable.

Our feelings are our compass and our barometer.

They guide our directions in life and how we enjoy that direction.

 

Occasionally we find ourselves in a situation where we feel sad. Things are not going as we had planned. We even start to feel a little doubtful of our abilities.

 

You have the right not to be sad. You can change how you feel. You do this by Gratitude.

Remember the song that starts “Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens…..”

Now make a list of your ten favorite things, keep it in a convenient spot, perhaps the bathroom mirror or refrigerator door.

Refer to your “Gratitude List” the very next time you feel sad.

 

You do have a choice not to be sad. There is power in graditude!!

 

 

Coaching Tips- Give Away your Frustration and Receive a Healthier Body and a Calmer Mind

 Give away your frustration and receive a healthier body and calmer mind. Is much easier then you may think.

 You are always putting yourself into situations that could make you angry and frustrated.

 

The very next time you are angry about something, release your frustration by engaging in a non-destructive and non-hostile activity.

Let me suggest a few: hit some tennis balls, go to the driving range and drive golf balls, lift weights, go running or punch a pillow.

 

Doing something physical to release the negative energy of an emotional problem is most effective.

You are putting that negative energy to a positive use that will benefit your body and your mind.

 

In this process, you might even find a solution or an answer to your problem or frustration.

 

 

 

 

 

Coaching Tips- Change Means Growth- Growth Takes Courage

 

We tend to be capable of big, noticeable changes. These changes although sometimes difficult are well planned and thought out. Some examples are marriage or divorce, buying a home, changing jobs or careers to name s few. However, the extremely small seemingly unimportant changes in our lives go unnoticed and sometimes not even followed through.

 

We tend to be very attached to small things and these small things can hold us back from fully enjoying our biggest changes.

I suggest throwing away all your old socks and replacing them with brand new ones. This exercise has huge emotional implications. Socks for the most part are very personal items, a part of us most people seldom see. This is a very personal, almost intimate change.

 

You might laugh at this small change, but many of us refuse to let go of the old worn out ideas or things. You see, we spend over $30,000 to replace a car every four years or so but we hold onto a pair of $6.00 socks for seemingly twice as long! We even reuse them as golf club covers or car polishing cloths etc. Enough already!! Let go!!

Time to change and grow. Have courage  and grow!

 

A Coaching Idea-Completing Yourself-Get Spiritual

 

I believe that we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

Some people feel comfortable with religious rituals, some people do not.

 

Whatever form of spiritual activity you prefer I suggest you start doing. 

Suggestion 1) Attend a religious service every week for at least one full month. Don’t let excuses stop you, commit to doing it and do it. You can go to different services at different times. Do what makes you feel good.

 

Suggestion 2) If you do not feel comfortable going to a religious service. Find a quiet place in nature where you can go to every week for at least a full month. Bring with you comfort food and water. Sit and read something that you consider to be scriptures, as you read meditate or pray on the words you have read. Being these words into your life and commit to taking action. 

 

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Memories Should be Savored like a Wonderful Meal

 

 

Memories Should be Savored like a Wonderful Meal, they are also non-fattening.

 

Have you ever considered memories as gourmet meals? Those times you celebrated and thoroughly enjoyed yourself and life.

 

Here is how to do the savoring!

 

Find some nice stationary, you still have some, I hope. I have a reason to use this stationery! Ok, now list the ten most wonderful moments in your life, so far!

 

For example- memory jogger:

Going to the prom

Graduating from high school / college

Getting married

Holding your first born

Getting your first car

Moving into your first home / apartment

 

The list goes on, these are just  suggestions.

The reason for the nice stationery is to enhance the memory writing as something incredible and special. Take some time to think back to each of these memories, relive how wonderful they were. Now hang this list on your refrigerator door where you can see it every day, all day.

 

These memories are times you enjoyed. Savor the emotions, that remembering brings back. Savor the planning that went into the making of that memory.

Life is good, your memories show it!

 

You can be happy, you proved it!

 

Now my coaching challenge to you is to add present memories to your journal so in a few months you can remove this wonderful list and replace it will a new improved one!

 

 

Respecting Yourself Starts with Respecting an Elder

 

Respecting yourself starts with respecting an elder, here is a few easy steps to get the job done.

 

We all need to take a better look at how we respect our selves. How are we as role models for our children, employees, friends and our community? How do we feel when we look at our selves in the mirror in the morning, are we just satisfied with our everyday performance or can we improve to make a difference in our lives and in the lives of those around us?

One positive way to increase our own self-respect is to gain the respect of our elders.

How do we do this? Simple, talk to them, help them feel needed again.

 

Take on hour to talk with an elderly person who is not a member of your family.

Ask about his or her greatest experiences in life. Be prepared for a wealth of information and emotions.

Ask if you can audio tape or use a digital voice recorder to record the conversation.  This personal history will be an important document for the person’s family member so offer to give them a transcript.

You can write the conversation down, in an outline form, much like taking notes at school. Then transcribe on quality stationary and give it to the person as a gift.

 

Remember allow the elder just to talk, or answer your questions, let them reminisce the old memories.

 

What is your part in this?

Show genuine interest

Show appreciation and gratitude

They will be your teacher, take this opportunity to learn.

This may be the only chance you get!

 

You will come away with a different perspective of the elderly, a respect for yourself for the action of calm reverence, and your ability to be open to a new learning experience.

 

 

This is another Coaching Moment from the Zensage.

 

 

Valentine's Day- A Day Set Aside to Express Love

 

A day that is set aside to express love.

 

Oh my, how sad, we have to schedule love expression. Hey, I know we are all busy but…

 

 

Here is my valentine to all my friends and “loves”!!

 

Let’s make love contagious, and an everyday spontaneous feeling!!